When it comes to Health, I have experienced it all…

Keto. Atkins. Low Carb. Shakes. No Sugar. Binge-eating. Intermittent Fasting. Starvation. Calorie Counting. 2 hrs of exercise per day. No exercise. HIIT. Yoga. Weights. Running. Boxing. Les Mills. Gym. Home Gym. Home Workouts. Bootcamp. Dance Fitness. Pilates. Obsessed with Weight Loss. Overeating. Obesity. Weight Loss. Weight Gain. Dressing Up. No Pride In Appearance. Strict Prayer Hour. Strict Bible Study Hours. No Prayer Life. No Bible Study. No Self-Care. Self-Care. Cluttered House. De-Cluttering. No Cleaning Routine. Cleaning Routine. Marriage Problems. Pregnant. Parenting Problems. Counselling. Denial. Bitterness. Resentment. Healing. Unforgiveness. Forgiveness. Overworked. Overwhelmed. Stressed. Medical Issues. Sickness. Surgery. Sleeping In. Rising Early. Strict Planning. Strict Schedules. Anti-Depressants. Weight Loss Medication. No Planning. No Schedules. Unorganised. TOO Organised. Single Mum. Drug Addiction. Alcohol Addiction. Sex Addiction. Porn Addiction. Food Addiction. People-Pleasing. Physical Abuse. Emotional Abuse. Psychological Abuse. Spiritual Abuse. Negative Self-Image. Positive Self-Image. Feeling Unworthy. Narcissistic Abuse. Depression. Anxiety. Suffering. Pain. Grief. Feeling Frustrated. Joy. Peace. Love. Contentment. Freedom. Self-Worth. Encouragement. Domestic Violence. Feeling Fabulous. Living Fulfilled. 

I have struggled with my weight for over 20+ years and I have been on my weight loss/healthy living journey for 25 years! Yep, this year will be 25 years!

It all started when I was 13 years old and I was called fat, at School. That was when I first became focused on body image…after that moment, I was constantly aware of how I looked compared to others. And the view was completely negative. I started going to the gym with my Mum when I was 14 years old and tried to be conscious of what I was eating – it wasn’t because I wanted to be healthy, though; I wanted to be skinny….like the other girls.

It is sad that we have these struggles at such a young age – my eldest daughter, Shayla, is 11yo and she has been aware of body image since she was 7yo; I am partly to blame for that because of my own struggles. I put a lot of emphasis on weight loss when I was obsessed about body image when she was younger.

The negative self-image of a young teen, turned into low self-esteem, which eventually manifested itself as anger, violence, sex addiction, drug and alcohol addiction, bitterness and depression.

I was the fat, funny girl who made jokes about herself and laughed off any feelings of insecurity – I acted tough. I was bullied in Primary School and I masked the pain by becoming the bully in High School. I made a reputation as Tough Kala, who didn’t care what anyone thought..well, that’s what came across to everyone but realistically I was hurting and didn’t want to show it.

My Father also left when I was 5yo and hasn’t been in my life since so that caused many issues for me, which ultimately led to the addictions…once I quit all the ‘negative’ addictions and starting living for Jesus, the addiction of food and eating was the only one left. The only one that nobody seemed to talk about.

The one that I never heard a sermon on.

There were many people within the Church who were overweight and didn’t see it as a problem – the whole, “big is beautiful” and “God accepts us all, no matter what we eat” mentality was so damaging.

I needed someone to come alongside me and lovingly tell me that it had to change.

That is why I am so passionate about coming alongside you and lovingly telling you that it needs to change.

BUT…it isn’t just about eating and exercise and losing kilos, it’s about living a life that honours God in every way!

As you can see from my description and photos above, I have experienced it all…it has been a rollercoaster ride and I can finally say, that after many, many years and various attempts at getting to a point where I feel fabulous inside and out, I am there!

I am currently overweight (technically, obese according to the ridiculous calculations of somebody LOL! – I mean seriously, due to my height, I should be between 44.4kgs and 55kgs) but I feel Fabulous! In August, I weighed 102.5kgs and I was still confident, content and felt fabulous (spiritually, mentally and emotionally) but physically, I was struggling. And I knew that I was unhealthy and didn’t want to be like that.

I am now 88kgs and have lost a total of 14kgs since August, 2021 with the help of smoothies, exercise, prayer and medication. Some may say that I am ‘cheating’ but I don’t see it that way…I had already lost around 7kgs on my own before my Dr. prescribed me weight loss medication, to aid me in my journey.

You see, after losing 7kgs, I had a Dr. put me on Anti-Depressants for Anxiety; a major misdiagnosis in the Medication; he gave me Medication that makes you drowsy at night and increases your appetite! WHAT? Medication that is supposed to help those who are so depressed that they can’t eat or sleep! Ummm hello?? I’m nearly 100kgs pretty sure I eat fine! HAHAHA! I was binge-eating at night (because that’s when the meds kicked your appetite into gear lol and then the drowsiness meant I felt sluggish and horrible in the morning! I gained a total of 5kgs in 4 weeks AFTER ALL MY HARD WORK of losing 7kgs!

My mental health and confidence took a massive hit…time to hit the reset button, reflect and restart! I spent time with the Lord and studied the Scriptures and spent time in Prayer to get back on track..mentally, emotionally and spiritually. A friend of mine told me about this medication so I went to the Dr. and he took me off the Anti-Depressants and started me on the new meds.

Once I started focusing on my self-worth and started the new meds, I felt re-invigorated and ready to start again! But…diet and exercise and sleep are not the only parts of our lives that affect our health – My biggest success in my life is living my life for the Lord and Honouring Him in all that I do; my Homemaking, my Marriage, my Parenting, my Work, my Productivity (or lack there-of), my Rest, my Self-Care and most importantly, my Relationship with Him.

I finally have regular routines in place in all areas of my life and it doesn’t feel monotonous, boring and draining – I have found the joy in the journey and it is a privilege to honour the Lord, as I serve others and take care of myself. When I am organised, structured and intentional in living my life with purpose, I Feel Fabulous – and so does my family!

August was my time to Start Anew…that’s why you will see in The Health and Honour Guide that I talk about the Number 8 and how it means “New Beginnings”, because it was  the 8th month when I started anew!

**UPDATE** It is now a year later, August 2022 and I’m currently in a season of New Beginnings AGAIN! I have been on a massive health journey and after losing my Mum unexpectedly in September, 2021 and leaving my marriage a month ago, due to Domestic Violence, I am on a healing journey with my 4 kids!

It’s possible for you to heal and become whole and healthy…no matter what you’re going through! I’m now 77kgs (APRIL 2023!) and a lot closer to my goal. I am focusing on my health, my healing and my relationship with God and focusing on The Passion Progress Framework, The 8 Areas & The 5A Healing Process is helping me live a fulfilled life every day! And you can too! Scroll down to hear more of my story!!

It’s your turn!

And I want to help you!

It Starts With You!